How To Know What You Know

Knowing is probably one of the most elusive concepts I teach in working with my clients (and myself!). It’s kind of ironic, don’t you think? (That ‘knowing’ is so uncertain…)

My theory is that we are socialized out of trusting our own knowingness, and taught to depend on external credibility for alot of things – validation, approval, permission, proof, measurement, and more. It’s natural that something as intangible and, well, ‘woo’ is so difficult to pin down and say it’s a certainty. Even more interesting is that there are still societies living in remote parts of the world that only rely on knowingness to live their lives. Intuition, instinct, trust, faith and perception are the keys to their world. What would it be like if we could do that too, surrounded by all the other gifts of the Western world but not dominated by them?

There are a few things that I have discovered that really help anchor how to know what you know. In random order, here goes:

1. Trust that you are always getting your messages, in right timing, to the degree that you can interpret, take them in and do something with them. (If they’re too far ahead of where you are in the moment, you won’t have a frame of reference for them – but they’ll come back again when you’re ready…)

2. Have faith that you retain the power of free will in acting on what you know. And you can always choose different if your results aren’t what you want / expected.

3. Be responsible and accountable for what you ‘know’ – just as you can’t unring a bell, you now have access to information you didn’t before and that becomes part of the fabric of your life. Denial isn’t really an option.

4. Let your body help by feeling your knowing; give yourself the experience of understanding your physical language of knowing. (Hint: play with that by holding something in your hand and asking if it’s optimal for you – if your body leans in, that’s a yes.)

5. Nobody else can ‘know’ for you better than you can… this is all about internal authority over your domain, regardless of what you see with your eyes (circumstances, relationships, opportunities, resources, environment).

6. Knowing can be contrary to what you expect / want.

7. Your ‘knowing’ will always add to your life experience in the long run, and generally doesn’t hurt someone else. (However, if your ‘knowing’ says it’s time for a relationship to end, that may hurt as this situation gets resolved, but it’s necessary for growth – and usually, for both of you.)

I ‘know’ this has some good information for you – I’d love to hear your thoughts about it!